The two common narratives in relationships are “love at first sight” and “love after being friends.” In my opinion, they are like two roads leading to one destination, one not greater or more beautiful than the other. I think it’s unfair that we get lost in arguments, placing one against the other, talking about what’s ideal, real, greater, or stronger. Love is a magnificent, albeit complicated, and multifaceted emotion. Why make things further difficult when we can embrace whatever roads we find ourselves on on the journey to finding love?
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Love at First Sight
Wondering if you’ve ever felt love at first sight? It is the immediate and intense attraction one person feels towards another upon first meeting; the butterflies in your stomach, the strong, almost magical connection that can feel like an instant bond or recognition of a soulmate. It’s beyond the physical attraction induced by the person’s looks, even though the physical attributes are sometimes a part of it. The brain’s release of chemicals such as dopamine and oxytocin contributes to creating a euphoric feeling and a sense of deep connection, leading to an exhilarating start of a relationship. Both partners typically recognise the romantic potential early on, reducing ambiguity about the nature of the relationship.
However, the initial vigour of attraction can lead to idealising the other person, potentially overlooking important differences or red flags. Love at first sight is only the beginning of the story. The spark needs to turn into a real fire and sustain its burning. Immediate attraction doesn’t always guarantee long-term compatibility. Differences in values, interests, and goals can become more apparent over time. Stay up to date on the latest in fashion, arts, beauty, and lifestyle by following FAB L’Style Magazine.
Love After Being Friends
Love that develops after a period of friendship or after the “talking stage” involves a gradual build-up of affection and romantic feelings. It is based on a foundation of trust, mutual respect, and shared experiences. Both parties want to weigh their options and be realistic with their thoughts and decisions. Nothing goes by unchecked—not the green flags, not the red flags. First, through friendship, an emotional intimacy is built. Such familiar emotions further transition into a stronger bond that naturally spurs romantic love. The relationship is built on a solid foundation of trust, respect, and shared experiences, which can contribute to long-term stability. The long, consistent period of the talking stage makes communication easier, especially during conflicts.
Speaking as an observer who has witnessed both types of beginnings, you really can’t tell which road is going to take you to your destination. It can be likened to a soup recipe with different preparation methods. You require the same measurements of ingredients, but you can change the order of things.
